Start: Sept 28, 2009 End: March 1, 2010
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The Dance of Connection
How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate
Based on the book "The Dance of Connection" by Harriet Lerner
Facilitator: Geri Czarnecki Ph.D. Attendance history: 80 - 140+
Overview: We will take a deep look into the complicated, mysterious, painful and beautiful dance we call Human relationship.
We will consider not only building relationships, but restoring love and connections with the people who matter most to us.
This series will teach us that no matter how we feel, no matter what is going on, no matter who we are with, we can find our voice when we need to speak with honor and personal integrity, even when the other person behaves badly.
Synopsis
In her most affirming and life-changing book yet, Dr. Harriet Lerner teaches us how to restore love and connection with the people who matter the most. In The Dance of Connection we learn what to say (and not say) when:
- We need an apology, and the person who has harmed us won't apologize or be accountable.
- We don't know how to take a conversation to the next level when we feel desperate.
- We feel worn down by the other person's criticism, negativity, or irresponsible behavior.
- We have been rejected or cut off, and the other person won't show up for the conversation.
- We are struggling with staying or leaving, and we don't know our "bottom line."
- We are convinced that we've tried everything — and nothing changes.
Filled with compelling personal stories and case examples, Lerner outlines bold new "voice lessons" that show us how to speak with honor and personal integrity, even when the other person behaves badly.
Whether we're dealing with a partner, parent, sister, or best friend, The Dance of Connection teaches us how to navigate our most important relationships with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction.
Table of Contents:
| Prologue: |
Back to the Sandbox |
| Chapter 1 |
Finding Your Voice |
| Chapter 2 |
Voice Lessons from My Father |
| Chapter 3 |
Our First Family: Where We Learned (Not) to Speak |
| Chapter 4 |
Should You Share Vulnerability? |
| Chapter 5 |
In Praise of Pretending |
| Chapter 6 |
Putting Our Parents on the Hot Seat |
| Chapter 7 |
Love Can Make You Stupid |
| Chapter 8 |
Marriage: Where's Your Bottom Line? |
| Chapter 9 |
"I Can't Live With This!" Voicing The Ultimate in Marriage |
| Chapter 10 |
Warming Things Up |
| Chapter 11 |
Silent Men/Angry Women |
| Chapter 12 |
Criticism Is Hard to Take |
| Chapter 13 |
An Apology? Don't Hold Your Breath |
| Chapter 14 |
Complaining and Negativity: When You Can't Listen Another Minute |
| Chapter 15 |
The Sounds of Silence: Finding a Voice When You're Rejected and Cut Off |
| Epilogue: |
To Thine Own Self Be True |
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