There are many groups and clubs dedicated to "quality of life" in Wisconsin. But are there enough focused primarily for single people? I have talked to several people who say they wish there was some type of organized group in their community to pursue common interests and just enjoy some social time with other adults.

Traveling to distant cities gets old quick! Traveling long distances to meet people, attend a meeting, community function or support group on a regular basis, in most cases, will wear on you at a minimum. And with the increase in fuel costs and vehicle maintenance, one has to ask if it's even worth the trip.

Do you want to form a group in your home town? If so, GO FOR IT! You may want to look around to see what kind of groups are out there, and how they function, before starting one yourself.

Forming a group is a challenging yet rewarding experience. There are several things to consider before you start.

• Do you know what your strengths, weaknesses, gifts and passions are?
• What is your leadership style?
• What is the purpose or focus of the group?
• Do you have the resources and support to see it thru?
• Where will your group meet and how often?
• How will you get the word out about your group?
• Will you need insurance for events and activities?

Very few people want to start something they can't finish or keep it thriving once it begins to grow. If this new group is a church ministry, the church will want you to have a purpose and faith statement before it becomes public knowledge. Keep in close contact with the affiliate organization if you're working with one. If the new group has no church affiliation, a mission/purpose and vision statement is essential and should include the group members in its creation and future revisions.

Start by talking to your friends, co-workers, neighbors and family about your thoughts and where your passion is coming from. Get some feedback on what you want to accomplish through the group. Keep notes on your thoughts, conversations and contacts. Seek direction through prayer and insight from others. Going into this without deep thought and hard work will ultimately lead to its demise. Speaking your thoughts out loud is important. Share your excitement with those close to you. Don't expect a lot of support and encouragement at first, sad but true. This is something you love, and must, unconditionally. If it is not your passion, re-examine your heart. You may be the driving force behind the group, but accept the reality early on that you can't do this alone. Don't be afraid to ask for help from anyone you feel can, one on one. Not through e-mails or instant messaging. Face to face is best but not always possible. Phone calls are appropriate once an initial contact has been made but ask permission in advance to call the person when you have a question or need help. You may have someone in mind to talk to, but believe they may be to busy to impose with your questions. Some of the most productive insightful people I know are very very busy, and for good reason. They are great leaders. Although most are more than willing to help you if you ask. It makes them feel good too.

Once you have developed a sketchy plan, set up a meeting with everyone who will be helping you. It's unlikely that you will be able to get everyone together at the same time so allow some flexibility on your part. You may have to do your fact finding meeting more than once. Each person will have something they want to contribute. Determine if it's inline with the purpose of the group. Define what each person is willing to do and the term they are willing to serve. Structure is not something to take lightly. Taking on to much yourself or delegating to much will burnout you, and your volunteers quickly. This will greatly depend on the size and purpose of the group though. Don't be disappointed if you find yourself alone or only have a handful of people willing to help. It's human nature that people are afraid to fail, preventing their involvement at first. If you have overcome the jitters, get started. Others will jump on the wagon once they see what they are missing out on. There is a great need for any kind of organized group, from getting together for cards, to a weekend retreat. Feel free to contact me at any point during your planning process. I'll be happy to assist in any way I can.

Start small and build from there. Whether your group is a dinner group, a small group bible or book study, considering the needs of others is critical to its success. It's not in the numbers. If you can impact one life, you're successful and serving a greater purpose! Allow ample time for interaction and fellowship. Listening and communication is important to healing and bonding the human heart and soul!

When planning events, hold them at locations that provide liability insurance. If you are planning a weekend camping trip in the boonies or a similar uncontrolled event, consider getting one time event coverage available through several insurance brokers.

Your group will be a blessing to everyone involved and to your community!

May your ventures become adventures!

Scott LaMay

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